Kamala Harris Gives Saucy Dating Advice That Might Make You Blush
Vice President Kamala Harris Shares Candid Relationship Wisdom, Drawing from New Book ‘107 Days’ and 11-Year Marriage to Douglas Emhoff
In an unexpected turn from policy discussions and global diplomacy, Vice President Kamala Harris, 61, recently offered a refreshing dose of personal wisdom during her appearance on the popular ‘Rich Little Brokegirls’ podcast. On Tuesday, December 23, the Vice President joined host Kimberly Bizu to delve into navigating personal lives amidst ambitious professional pursuits, a topic she explores in depth in her newly released book, ‘107 Days’. Beyond political strategy, Harris unveiled a relatable side, dispensing practical and heartfelt dating advice for those seeking meaningful connections.
The Cornerstone of Connection: Kindness and Laughter
Harris emphasized that the foundation of any successful relationship begins with self-kindness. “The important piece of this, though, for anyone who is single, who wants to be in a relationship, is to be kind to yourself and choose to be with someone who is kind,” she began. This fundamental principle, she asserted, is paramount. Her advice extended to fostering a joyful partnership, urging listeners to “choose to be with someone who allows you to laugh at yourself and them.” The ability to share lighthearted moments and find humor in life’s complexities emerged as a critical ingredient for lasting happiness.
Beyond grand gestures, Harris underscored the value of shared, mundane moments that forge true intimacy. “Choose to be with someone you like going to the grocery store together, taking a walk together, and doing something fancy together,” she elaborated. This holistic view of partnership suggests that true compatibility shines through both the everyday and the extraordinary, reinforcing the idea that a strong bond is built on a shared enjoyment of life’s full spectrum.
Navigating Relationship Phases with Honesty
Acknowledging the diverse forms relationships can take, Harris spoke candidly about different “phases” in life, from casual connections to deeply committed partnerships. “Depending on what phase you’re in, maybe you’re going to choose that you want to have that kind of Friday night relationship or you want that Sunday morning relationship,” she mused, prompting shared laughter with Bizu. She acknowledged that sometimes partners can offer both, and other times, “it’s oil and water,” but stressed that both scenarios are “okay.”
The Vice President’s crucial directive to listeners was the importance of self-honesty. She urged individuals to introspect and clearly define what they “actually want” from a relationship in their current phase. “Be in those phases where you are having fun. Be in those phases where you have a sense of I just want something more,” she advised. The key, she concluded, is to “be honest about what you’re in. And not try and make it something that it’s not because that usually doesn’t work out so well.”
A Love Story Forged in Modern Romance: The Harris-Emhoff Chronicle
Harris’s pragmatic dating advice is deeply informed by her own enduring 11-year marriage to Second Gentleman Douglas Emhoff. Their love story, which began in 2013, offers a testament to her principles. The couple was introduced on a blind date by Harris’s friend, Chrisette Hudlin. However, as Harris candidly revealed in a January 2020 interview on CBS News’ ‘Sunday Morning’, the date wasn’t entirely “blind” for her; she had, in a relatable modern twist, Googled her future husband beforehand.
Their connection was immediate and profound. After their first date, Emhoff, now 61, wasted no time in making his intentions clear. Harris recounted in her memoir, ‘The Truths We Hold: An American Journey’, that he sent her a refreshingly direct email the very next morning. It read: “I’m too old to play games or hide the ball. I really like you, and I want to see if we can make this work.” This straightforward approach quickly led to their wedding in August 2014, a ceremony held in Santa Barbara, California, solidifying a partnership that would navigate the highest echelons of public service.
Even amidst the unprecedented demands of the Vice Presidency, the couple has consistently prioritized their relationship. Emhoff shared with PEOPLE in November 2023 that they consciously carve out time each day, starting and ending their evenings together. “We try to approach those moments as husband and wife, not vice president and second gentleman,” he explained. “It’s really our time to be a couple… time talking about kids, family and very little about the workings of our days.” This dedication to their personal bond, despite immense public pressure, reflects the very advice Harris now shares: choose a kind partner with whom you can share genuine moments, big and small, and always be honest about what you seek.
